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Traumatized Minds

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Be Less of a Jerk 101: Racism Crash Course

By Kristance Harlow | June 8, 2020 |
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Stop getting offended when someone calls you white, part of white supremacy, a recipient of white privilege, or even *gasp* racist. Instead, try this: hush up, listen and learn.

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Are the 12 Steps Safe for Trauma Survivors?

By Kristance Harlow | August 15, 2019 |
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When the 4th and 5th steps are done without support for the symptoms of PTSD, they have the potential to retraumatize.

Memories, Parts of Self, and Cohesive Identities

By Kristance Harlow | November 14, 2018 |
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Recovering repressed memories is possible. Trauma is subjectively experienced. Flashbacks are real. Depression is physical.

What is Dissociative Identity Disorder?

By Kristance Harlow | January 16, 2018 |
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Dissociative identity disorder (DID), formerly called multiple personality disorder, is an extremely misunderstood condition related to serious trauma usually in childhood. It’s a controversial diagnosis, in part because of the widespread ignorance and because it frequently occurs alongside other disorders.

How to Listen Someone’s Trauma Story

By Kristance Harlow | January 12, 2018 |
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You don’t need to understand a person or their post traumatic symptoms to listen to their trauma story. Having empathy and patience does not mean you must experience what they experience. We can never know exactly what another person has lived through and how they felt in each moment.

Dissociating Is Being Stuck In My Head and Not My Body

By Kristance Harlow | January 5, 2018 |
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I can’t say anything. He wants me to tell him if I’m ok and I am trapped in my head, but not in my body. I can’t move my eyes to look into his.

Suicidal and Not Giving Up

By Kristance Harlow | December 27, 2017 |
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TW: Suicidal ideation. Raw, honest, painfully real journal journey to a dark time of suicidal thoughts. Get help at call 1-800-273-8255

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Drinking as Self-Harm

By Kristance Harlow | December 26, 2017 |
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When I can only see the world through foggy glasses, the urge to destroy myself by drinking again becomes an enticing option. Drinking can be a method of self-harm and was for me.

Resiliency, Isolation, and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

By Kristance Harlow | December 23, 2017 |
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Despite the impulse to isolate, it is socializing that is critical to healing a core identity and building resiliency. Recovery is not something that can occur in isolation.

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What is Trauma?

By Kristance Harlow | November 22, 2017 |
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Trauma is when an incident or series of events overwhelms someone’s normal ability to cope. The psychiatrist Mardi Horowitz explains that trauma shatters a person’s “inner schemata” which is their understanding of their inner self as it relates to their place in the world. Trauma can devastate what someone once believed to be fundamental truths.…

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Crisis Text Line
Text: “HOME” to 741741

Suicide Lifeline
Text: “ANSWER” to 839863
Call: 1-800-273-8255

Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-787-3224 (TTY)

Child Abuse Hotline

The Trevor Project
Text “START” to 678678

If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, call your local emergency number. The numbers listed here are the commonly used numbers for the stated region, the numbers can vary greatly depending on where you live. If you don't know your country's equivalent to 911, this wiki page and The Lifeline Foundation have comprehensive listings.



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112 & 999



112, 999, 110



112, 911, 999, 111, & 000


These online and international resources may help you anywhere you are located. Looking for local support outside of the USA? Check out our support listings.

DV Support Abroad
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