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Dangerous Words and the Internet
If I was home without a parent, I knew to answer the phone and say mom is in the shower or that dad is mowing the lawn. I knew to not open the door if anyone came knocking. I didn’t know I needed the same cautious self-protection when I logged on.
The Persuasive Mind Tricks of Abusers
If abusers are such assholes, how do they get someone to fall in love with them in the first place? Easy, they're not just assholes, they're often charismatic and attractive. Oh, and very persuasive.
The Truth About Sexual Assault
Breaking down some of the most devastating and important statistics about sexual violence.
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Yes, Things Get Worse Before Things Get Better
One thing about trauma in PTSD is that it starts to show itself when you’re safe(r) than before. Our brains are working on overdrive trying to protect us and to handle all the threats and to keep us alive after the earth shattering trauma(s) we lived through. We feel scared because we know how bad…
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Relationship Red Flags: Are You Dating an Abuser?
Trust your intuition, relationship red flags aren't easy to identify, but there are warning signs. Are you dating an abuser?
What Poverty Looks Like and Who Uses Food Stamps
It is long past time to stop making judgments about what poverty looks like. Impoverished people do not fit into a neat stereotype of what acceptable poverty is or isn’t.
Lack of Resistance is Not Consent, It’s Assault
Sexual assault and harassment boil down to a violation of one basic principle: consent. Never assume consent. Lack of resistance is not consent.
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Where to Get Help for Suicide or a Mental Health Crisis
A comprehensive listing of suicide intervention and crisis support hotlines and contacts. Talk to someone via chat, text, phone, or email. Find help for yourself or someone else.
Why I am airing my dirty laundry
There is a lot of value in talking about survival and moving forward in life. It is important to see what the future can hold, but when you feel alone in the thick of sorrow the only thing that you want is to feel less alone.
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The Internet Can Help Trauma Survivors— But It Can Harm Them, Too
For many battling depression and other mental illness, social networking sites are the only place they feel understood. The internet keeps the door to the outside world ajar just enough to make it possible for help to sneak through.
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Ten Things Survivors Should Know About the Title IX Rollback
Secretary of Education Betsy DeVos warned that she would not protect the Obama-era guidelines that helped schools establish systems and policies for investigating allegations of sexual misconduct. As early as January, during her confirmation hearings, DeVos said she would not commit to protecting those guidelines.
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How To Practice Self-Compassion in 6 Steps
Self-compassion protects us from ourselves. Another 2017 study published in School Psychology Quarterly found that self-compassion protects adolescents from inflicting self-harm because "those high on self-compassion may be more likely to use adaptive strategies" for dealing with pain and suffering.
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Cutting Domestic Violence Programs is Dangerous
Courtesy of Donkey Hotey on Flickr Creative Commons Sharealike License The current political climate in the United States is putting victims of intimate partner violence (IPV) and the police officers who respond to their emergency calls in greater danger. President Donald Trump has repeatedly said one of his top issues is protecting police officers; the White House website even included “Standing Up For…
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Why Do People Return to Domestic Abusers?
There are many reasons people return to domestic abusers. One of which is the psychological phenomena of re-enactments and re-experiencing.
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Why I Didn’t Try To Lose Weight For My Wedding
The author on her wedding day. Courtesy of Adrian Herrera of Victor Herrera Photographers To take care of myself in the months preceding my wedding I had to make a conscious effort to not dive into dieting. Wedding weight loss was off the list of things for me to do, or to even attempt. As…
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Retracting Allegations of Abuse is Not Proof – Trauma and Memories
Graffiti in Buenos Aires. Photo by the author Retracting an abuse allegation is not proof that the abused is lying or that the alleged abuser is innocent. Rape is amongst the most underreported crimes. Victims face enormous obstacles in the aftermath of rape. Not the least of which is deciding whether or not to contact…
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Stigma Punishes Victims, Helps Perpetrators
Donald Trump is the President-Elect, and it is not good news for mental health care. Unlike Hillary Clinton, who had a comprehensive mental-health-care program as part of her platform, it’s difficult to discern what Trump’s plan is — or if he has one at all.
Donald Trump is Just Like My Abuser
That’s when it clicked: I can’t watch Trump because he is a manipulator, and his manner of speaking is that of an emotional abuser. That’s why I was finding myself fighting panic and flashbacks when I first tried watching him debate. I was flashing back to my own experience as a victim of abuse.
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Student debt made the domestic violence against me worse
The first time my ex-boyfriend got violent, we were both graduate students living in Britain and had been together for less than a year. He violently shoved me and then acted like he didn’t mean it and that it couldn’t have hurt. Moments later he did it again. Nearly yanking my arm out of the socket, he threw me down the hallway.
Should We Feel Empathy for a Mother Whose Neglect Killed Her Baby?
In August, 62-year-old Kathleen Steele was arrested for the death of her infant child, who was killed by the hands of Steele’s 6-year-old son. Steele left her three children in the car, aged 13 days, 3 years and 6 years. According to reports, Steele left her kids in a parked car with the windows up…
Why Are We Surprised by Leniency for White Rapists
With Stanford rapist Brock Turner being released from prison Friday after a laughably short sentence, it’s time to look at privilege. Again. Widely publicized news stories paint a picture of the powerful (read: white and those benefiting from white male power structures) being protected because of their (imagined, good) intent — while the disenfranchised (read: people of color) are punished for theirs.
Poverty and Homelessness in Argentina
"How can it be that it is not a news item when an elderly homeless person dies of exposure, but it is news when the stock market loses two points?" Pope Francis
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10 Horrifying Examples Of Modern-Day Child Slavery
Childhood is defined by culturally set boundaries which have changed throughout human history. There are millions of children trafficked around the world and forced into lives of depravity and despair.
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Domestic Abuse, It Happened To Me, It Can Happen To You
I know surprisingly few people who would admit to having suffered abuse. Is it because we are ashamed? Because we blame ourselves? Because we're scared?
Hunger in America: It’s Time To Take Action
Kids who go hungry suffer dire health consequences: stunted growth, more likely to get sick and stay sick and even be hospitalized, constant fatigue, and poor performance in school.
Three Horrifying Examples of the Poultry Industry Exploiting Workers’ Rights
Children are affected by their parents inability to pay for and attend doctors visits. One mother waited to take her daughter in for an ear infection, resulting in hearing loss for the child.
Child Exploitation – 3 Terrible Forms of Child Labor
“There are more slaves today than were seized from Africa in four centuries of the trans-Atlantic slave trade.” Andrew Cockburn Children work all over the world in thousands of different industries many children are in servitude so they earn no income as they are often paying off debts for themselves or their family through their…