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Alcoholic and Spiraling Towards Bottom

By Kristance Harlow | October 31, 2017 |
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Angry at myself. I’ve been drinking every single day for like a week. I know why I’m doing it. Without something to confuse my sense, I don’t have to deal with this internal struggle.

Making a living

By Kristance Harlow | October 27, 2017 |
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I have a mission. That mission is to eradicate the stigmas that keep people in pain, too ashamed to seek help or unable to get help. If you want to help me do this, donate to support this work.

Me Journaling on the beach

How Journaling Has Helped Me Heal

By Kristance Harlow | August 27, 2017 |
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From a young age, I learned that writing about my pain was like talking to a friend. My journal has traveled as far and wide as I have.

Wedding at the Beach

Why I Didn’t Try To Lose Weight For My Wedding

By Kristance Harlow | July 10, 2017 |
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Photo Courtesy of Adrian Herrera of Victor Herrera Photographers To take care of myself in the months preceding my wedding I had to make a conscious effort to not dive into dieting. Wedding weight loss was off the list of things for me to do, or to even attempt. As soon as I begin to…

Emotional Selfie

When Depression Shows Her Face

By Kristance Harlow | May 29, 2017 |
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Why is Depression so heavy? Hanging around in the pit of my stomach, a pulsating orb, a cancer re-emerging after remission. The sorrow is physically manifested in my gut. I feel a deep discontent. A piece missing or shifted into the wrong position. A heavy weight, crushing. Like soaking wet wool fabric, clinging to my…

skin picking

I Can’t Stop Picking At My Skin

By Kristance Harlow | May 9, 2017 |
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Mom liked to redecorate and renovate. She decked out the main bathroom in blue and put up yellow and blue wallpaper. The dated linoleum floor was replaced with one to match the new décor. The bathtub had always been blue, now the rest of the room was too.

Social Anxiety and Racing Thoughts

By Kristance Harlow | December 28, 2016 |
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I prefer to go under the radar than let people get close and reject me once they get to know me. I am afraid to be honest.

Inspirational Travel Music

By Kristance Harlow | December 22, 2016 |
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Music can make you happy, science says so. Dopamine, is released when people listen to positive emotional music. In other words, music causes listeners to experience pleasure and happiness. When I’m dreaming of a travel adventure, I have these songs on my playlist.

Yellow cocktail with NO sign

39 Excuses for Not Drinking

By Kristance Harlow | November 17, 2016 |
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Other people shouldn’t have a problem with you saying no to a drink. Unfortunately, as with many scenarios, “no” is not always accepted as a final answer. There may be people who, for reasons of their own, will pressure you to take that first drink. Not everyone wants to disclose alcoholism, so what can you say to make people leave you alone?

How I Learned to Love Meditation

By Kristance Harlow | October 21, 2016 |
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It isn’t easy to deal with stresses again without my old crutch of booze. It can really suck. The world around me is loud, crowded, and smelly. Combine that with the obsessive thoughts that regularly run laps around my brain—it’s a recipe for a meltdown. To my surprise, sprinkling in some meditations completely changed the mix.

Find help for a crisis by texting, calling, or chatting online with these free crisis organizations. Looking for one outside of the USA? Check out our support listings.

Crisis Text Line
Text: “HOME” to 741741

Suicide Lifeline
Text: “ANSWER” to 839863
Call: 1-800-273-8255

Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-7233
1-800-787-3224 (TTY)

Child Abuse Hotline
1-800-422-4453

The Trevor Project
Text “START” to 678678
1-866-488-7386

If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, call your local emergency number. The numbers listed here are the commonly used numbers for the stated region, the numbers can vary greatly depending on where you live. If you don't know your country's equivalent to 911, this wiki page and The Lifeline Foundation have comprehensive listings.

Americas

911

The Americas

Europe

112

Europe

Africa

112 & 999

Africa

Asia

112, 999, 110

Asia

Oceania

112, 911, 999, 111, & 000

Oceania

These online and international resources may help you anywhere you are located. Looking for local support outside of the USA? Check out our support listings.

DV Support Abroad
Call toll-free worldwide
1-833-723-3833

I'm Alive Virtual Crisis Center
Live chat with trained volunteers

Crisis Connections
24/7 crisis support with interpretation in 155+ languages