Domestic Violence and Abuse
Sexual and intimate partner abuse is a worldwide epidemic, domestic violence affects all genders but an estimated 1 out of 3 women will experience it at some point during their lives.
If you are a victim, it is never your fault. There is no rhyme or reason to abuse, you deserve respect.
This link goes to hotline.org, which has 24/7 phone support in 170 languages, support for hearing impaired, and online chat support from 7am-2am CST.
Victim blaming does nothing but encourage more abuse. Even with all my feminist education, even with all my girl-power beliefs…I still didn’t want to admit to being a victim of abuse. I felt weak. I felt like someone else would think I was exaggerating. I was afraid that I was exaggerating. It wasn’t until one night when I got drunk and showed someone the pictures I’d saved on my iPod of the bruises that I FULLY accepted the truth. I’m here to tell you that your feelings are valid. That your pain is real. Relationships must make you feel safe and secure physically, sexually, emotionally, and financially. Trust your gut and don’t believe it can’t happen to you. I’ve heard people say, “Yes, she was abused, but she had a really hard childhood I don’t think she was brought up to be a good judge of character. Poor girl.” “Yeah, she was abused, but she saw her dad hit her mom so I think she thought it was normal.” Please, if you’ve ever said anything like this, do the world a favor and shut up. I was brought up in a loving and supportive family. My father was kind and caring and giving. My parents never fought. I was never abused or mistreated, by anyone, ever. It can happen to anyone. It happened to me.
Economic abuse is a form of DV where the abuser restricts access to funds. Lack of financial resources is a very common reason many people stay in abusive relationships.
In 98% of domestic violence situations, economic abuse is present.1
An estimated 21-60% of domestic violence victims lose their jobs and they lose their jobs because of complications that stem from abuse.2
Debt wasn’t something I could talk to my boyfriend about. In fact, there were many topics that were too dangerous to broach – that was just one of them.
Read The Guardian article that pulls the curtain back to expose what domestic violence looks like and how damaging financial abuse can be.
More on Financial Abuse
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